Wednesday, June 10, 2020
A Break
Wednesday, October 19, 2016
Do I Lose Myself in Motherhood?
So Moms any of you have the same experience with me? I’d love to hear your stories.
.cheers.
Friday, April 22, 2016
Disconnect to Reconnect
Saturday, January 16, 2016
Lose Yourself
Ini bukan lagunya Justin Bieber yeessss... Itu mah love yourself ya walaupun isi liriknya ga ada hubungannya dengan gimana cara mencintai diri sendiri.
Dua bulan lagi krucil masuk 2 tahun dan selama itu pula saya menjadi seorang ibu. Mungkin pengalamannya belum ada apa-apanya dibanding ibu-ibu lain yang anak-anaknya sudah besar. Tapi selama 2 tahun itu juga bikin sadar banyak hal. Jadi ibu rumah tangga yang dirumah aja itu ga gampang, yang ga kerja dan klo mau duit harus minta ke suami, yang mau dandan aja bingung soalnya cuma ke dapur aja, yang kerjaannya pake daster lusuh kucel dan dekumel, yang bosen ngurusinnya cuma cucian piring baju dan ketemunya sama kotak dinding-dinding kamar dan rumah sambil seharian dengerin bahasa bayi.
Tapi bener deh belakangan ini lagi ngerasa kehilangan jati diri. Sebenernya apa sih jati diri? Itu loh yang kerja, bisa haha hihi di kantor, bisa kesana kemari abis kerja, bisa hang out waktu weekend, bisa bangun siang tiap weekend, yang bisa beli dan pake baju bagus tas dan sepatu bermerek, yang badannya langsing ga pake gurat2 strechmark. I feel like I lose myself when I become a mom seringnya saat bosan melanda hal-hal seperti itu yang dikangenin. Kangen bisa wangi bisa cantik dan itu bikin self-esteem menjunjung tinggi. Kangen bisa nulis blog setiap hari, bisa baca buku nonstop kalo buat saya. Tapi bener ga sih itu jati diri saya? Nope. Hal-hal kayak gitu buah dari kejenuhan berkutat hanya dirumah saja yang akhirnya bikin saya mikir it wasn't something that I'll do again if I want to. Sesungguhnya jati diri saya dulu seorang single yang happy. Dan sesunggunya jati diri saya sekarang adalah seorang ibu. And it's human for me to want to a period of time when everything was all about me. All those sacrifice will paid off in its time. It was just me having a weak moment.
Terlalu mikirin pendapat orang juga ga bagus apalagi kalo orangnya cuma bisa ngomong doang.. hehhehe.. now I am better.
How about you?
.cheers.
Monday, October 26, 2015
Envy
Monday, June 10, 2013
Manusia dan Manusia
Satu hal yang paling saya ingat dari suami dan ibu mertua saya adalah kita tidak boleh membenci seseorang. Mungkin saya bukan pendendam, tapi saya bukan orang yang mudah melupakan masalah atau melupakan orang yang berbuat masalah dengan saya.
Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Sesungguhnya rahmat Allah tidak akan turun kepada suatu kaum yang di dalamya ada orang yang memutuskan tali persaudaraan".
Yang akan selalu terngiang diingatan. Kita tidak boleh membenci seseorang karena rahmat Allah tidak akan turun. Saya belajar banyak dari kalimat ini. Belajar memaafkan dengan ikhlas dan belajar merelakan bahwa semua apa pun yang terjadi di hidup saya adalah atas kehendak Allah SWT yang baik dan buruk.
Saya belajar satu hal baru mengenai silaturahmi dan hubungan sesama manusia, itu sifatnya dua arah. Dan ini berlaku sesama saudara, teman, maupun orang lain.
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Happy New Year 1434 H
Updated:
Have you write down your wish-list to achieve for the next year? I don't have list for a good reason now, sorry, but I'll let you know if I end up have one.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Silent Wrath
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Personal Pleasure
For a mother who already have son or daughter. Seeing their children at home when they go home after work must be their personal pleasure. I have a lot of things that trigger my enthusiasm on new things but I realize I could never do a lot of things. I usually talk to my self and later I found out what I (REALLY) like to do.
It is my partner that gave me a very simple answer. He said "I think my pleasure is cooking and sports. I like cooking and enjoy cooking. When people say that my food is delicious I am very happy. As for sport, I'd like to do it again but I feel lazy recently."
I never thought of my personal pleasure. But definitely I have a lot of things that I like to do. I like photography and traveling a lot. But I choose to be a very smart photographer and a very thoughtful traveler. One day, I really want to have and buy a DSLR camera so I can capture beautiful things. I like traveling but It's hard for me to spend money and do a lot of traveling. One time, my partner told me to just buy a DSLR camera but in the end I reject it as I said a common digital camera is enough. To me, producing a good picture using a common digital camera is my personal pleasure. My journey to Thailand opened up my eye. Taking pictures while adoring how Allah SWT create universe is kinda disturbing so I like to picturised it in my memory. A picture just an evidence to tell people that you've been there.
Another personal pleasure my partner told me. Cleaning the house is my personal pleasure. Believe it or not. I love to do household stuff, I enjoy the most washing dishes. I rarely get tired from this. Plus leave me alone with music then I'll make my hand work immediately :) Maybe I am not suitable to work at office :p .
Writing also one of my personal pleasure. Along with mountain-breeze and sweet hot tea. Morning or afternoon never a big matter. I like a little sunshine as a dessert.
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So, what is your personal pleasure?
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Pray = Mosque (Eat Pray Love Pt.2)
I know when it come to religion, I come to a very sensitive yet important. Every religion has their own place of worship. Here, I'm just gonna show you what I want to visit if I had a chance to travel. A mosque. and a little experience of moslem life in other country.
| Photo by Guijarro85 |
| Photo by SyN+H |
| Photo by Joao Maximo |
| Photo by papalars |
| Photo by Mo7amaD |
| Photo by Imansyah™ |
| Photo by durentiga |
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| Captain Son Jin-gu from Zaitoon Unit recites an oath at ceremony to mark his conversion to Islam at a mosque in Hannam-dong, Seoul on Friday. /Yonhap |
| Soldiers from Zaitoon Unit pray after conversion ceremony at a mosque in Hannam-dong, Seoul on Friday./Yonhap |
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
You can't judge a book by its cover, you hafta read it.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Uang? Kaya? Beruntung?
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Orang Asing dan Perempuan Berkulit Gelap
Kenapa Harus Putih?
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Cewe Matre!
- "Kenapa si semua cewe itu sama, selalu pengen dibayarin dari awal sampe akhir kalo lagi jalan sama cowonya",
- "Kenapa cewe lebih suka cewe yang bisa kemana-mana pake mobil dan bukan pake motor, kalo pake motor bilang panas lah atau apa lah kesannya ribet banget",
- "Kenapa ga pt-pt aja, lagian kan gw bukan suaminya belum ada kewajiban buat ngebayarin semuanya kalo udah jadi suami juga gw ga mau punya istri yang matre",
- "Cewe itu harus bisa mengerti keadaan cowonya."
- "Apa yang bisa dilihat dari cowo kalo cowo selalu bayarin, beliin semua yang cewe mau?" (Oke ini pertanyaan yang cukup menohok)
Psstt, emang ga banyak koq Kaum Hawa yang ga memikirkan materi. Tapi pasti ada koq. Beruntunglah yang bisa menemukannya. Pacaran mengajarkan dua manusia saling menyayangi dan berbagi kehidupan begitu juga berbagi materi. Coba lupakan mindset "Kalo pacaran harus cowo yang bayarin/beliin."
Bisous,
Sofia








