Disconnect to Reconnect

picture from here

 Coming from a big family that loooove to have gathering so much make me feel so much enjoyment, comfort and at ease even for someone introvert like me. I used to sulk if my dad decided to spend time at home only on Eid day instead of going house by house of my relatives. Growing up lacking of love always made me try to find love by having connection with people either family or friends. And I'll always be that kind of person that will make more effort to connect with someone till this day. But since 5 years ago, the moment where I actually accept myself and able to love myself, I become more selective on having a relationship with both family or friends.

For me, a relationship is a TWO WAY process. For both relationship with family or friends. A relationship require efforts from both sides. And I learned the hard way about one way relationship. So It's been years that I finally able to have a TWO WAY relationship and I intended to savor that relationship. I never cut-off a relationship but it just vanished the moment I no longer put effort to it. Does it hurt? Like hell. At first, I was appalled that the reason I lost a relationship are because of money, because of marriage, because of a man, because of a woman. But then I realized their worth of my time and no they are not worth it. So I just didn't have to put so much effort anymore. I no longer need pile of relationship just so that I am loved. And I am happy with that because I love myself more.

But this year I have a lot of talks with my husband and how his circle of relationship are much worse than me so we decided to RECONNECT with people. Both family and friends. To me, some are an unsolved case but most of all I want to reconnect because Allah SWT. Because what we called hablumminannas (human relationships with other humans). Through this reconnecting I hope to make more  A NEW BEGINNING and find a lot of closure that I might need and RE-START again.

  

.Cheers.

A Life You (Might) Never Know

I wasn't someone coming from money although some of my family did have money more than I can produce. Today was another day that remind me to always be grateful. So we, my husband-me-and-my kid, are on our way to the Mckids so that our kid can have sometime to play with people his age. Halfway through the destination rain came down pouring with no inclination to stop. We decided to stop and wait for the rain to stop. Because no way we went through the rain as my kid recently having HFMD and I was just visit the doctor. We didn't want to take a risk of soaking in a cold heavy rain.

We took a shade in front of one of the shop and being hungry that we are. We decided to eat right there in the cold hard floor of a closed shop while ordering meatball soup. Some people that we know might take pity on us but to me this kind of hardship remind me to always grateful and humble. Never once in my life that I feel ashamed of what we've been through as a family. Problem is we never let people even our own family knows our hardship.

We as a human really want to give their best to our loved ones. Hence, me being a parents make me want to give my best to the kiddo. We able to provide a decent shelter that in the process put me in a lot of stress, you are lucky if your parents could provide you some financial assistance, but not me and my husband. We need to work our ass of and drain our entire saving to be able to buy our family a decent home. With me quit the job right at the moment I knew I was pregnant it brought us a new problem: how are we gonna survive with single income? We're hanging by a thin thread the moment we live by ourself but in return having a house giving you more freedom. Freedom to shape your own kid and your own family. And it didn't just stop there.

We have no car. If it's just me and my husband I really don't give a fuck to go to one destination to other by using my husband motorcycle. The 14-years-old motorcycle. That if you speed up through a bump one or another part of the motorcycle tore apart (you won't believe it but it's true). But that's the only transport we have. At first I'd had unshed tears everytime my kid was riding with us and there's just too much heat or (mostly) rain. And at night I'll cry myself while watching my kid for having to go through that condition but we as a parents have no choice. People could pity us or questioning us on why we couldn't afford a car. And that's the only thing they could do and sometimes I just wish they just shut up. You probably never know what it feel to not have an option. Truthfully we couldn't afford a car. And I didn't want we didn't have a car lead us to just stay at home. We've been through up and down in that motorcycle. We've had scattered our monthly groceries on the road because we didn't take into account how many groceries we're able to bring if we went on groceries. We've been through many cold heavy rain. We've been through the hottest weather. We've been through the happiest and saddest moment in that motorcycle with our kid sandwich between us. And in every trip we had I always pray that this struggle and sacrifice will make my kid grow in grateful and humble.

It has name. Thank you F  for accompanying us this whole time.

This might a little piece of struggle and sacrifice I want to share. Don't want your pity. Don't want anything in return because through this process I learn one thing: to never expect people acknowledgement just expect Allah SWT acknowledgement. But If you want to share yours maybe we can be a good friends. I love talking about what life give us.

picture from here

.Cheers.

Motherhood: Parents' Love Mother's Love Whatever

Suka ga sih liat orang tua yang bahasa sundanya ga nyaah dulang (sayang tapi menjerumuskan)tapi ternyata nyaah dulang. Suka ga sih liat orang tua yang belain anaknya mati-matian padahal anaknya salah. Suka ga sih liat orang tua yang atas nama cinta memberikan semuanya buat anak. 

Yupe I guess that's the power of love. Tipis ya cinta yang bisa bikin seseorang jadi sukses sama jadi biasa aja. Baru satu tahun setengah jadi ibu perasaan cinta kayak gitu yang saya takutkan, sangat. Kenapa? Because I've witnessed the kind of scary love. Liat gimana saking cintanya orang tua sama anak, anaknya bikin kesalahan dibelaaaaa terus padahal ya anaknya yang bohong sama orang tuanya. Liat gimana saking cintanya orang tua sama anaknya, merasa anaknya yaaaang paling bener orang lain ga. Liat gimana saking cintanya orang tua sama anaknya bikin perlakuan ga adil ke pasangan hidup anaknya. Liat gimana saking cintanya orang tua sama anak dinenenin sama diketekin aja anakbya padahal udah punya keluarga sendiri. Yupe I've witnessed that. And the outcome of that kind of love. Scary.

So today, saya dihadapkan dengan kenyataan kalo anak saya mewarisi caranya marah saya. Yupe, I am ugly when it's come to angry. Jadi ceritanya si bocah lagi main sama temennya, a girl but she has dominance personality. Setiap main kerumah semua mainan bocah dimainin dan bocah ga bisa main mainan yang dia pengen. Sering saya bela supaya mainannya dikasih ke anak saya because it's him, ya know. Tapi lebih sering saya alihkan perhatian anak saya ke mainan yang lain yg tidak dimainkan. Saya mengajarkan dia untuk sesekali mengalah so it should be no problem, right? I always play with my kid so ketika si temennya ini liat bocah main sama mamanya diambil lah lagi mainannya. Intinya anak saya ga boleh main mainannya, wth? Tapi saya selalu coba ajak ngobrol anak saya supaya berbagi mainannya atau main bersama-sama. Maybe just maybe dia udah jengah ya jadi sekarang kalo mainannya main di rebut aja he's become physical. Jadi setiap ketemu anak itu bawaannya rambutnya dijambak, di cakar daaaaan akhirnya tadi mainannya kena lempar ke dan mukanya ( and I was like OMG!!!!!). I can't angry to my kids because it was unintentional. Happens out of defense karena mainannya mau diambil. Disini bikin saya mikir I was in denial. Denial of my kid fault. So yeah I admit what he did is wrong but she's wrong too. And they're kids. And mother's love is scary.

Padahal ya itu hal kecil, mengakui kalo anak sendri itu salah rasanya beraaaaat dan ga terima. Lebih berat lagi pas sadar kalo 'hey, anak lo mewarisi cara marah lo lho!' And I was like 'OUCH'. So I am worried of myself of my love for my kids of what it will make my kids.

But being a mother is a lifetime learning process. So yeah, I am learning.

.Cheers.

Hibernating, Expecting, and Fasting

Dear readers,

 weheartit

I know, I’ve been around just for reading. I have no power of writing and blogging even though I miss it damn much. I have some new posts in the draft and my notepad it’s just I am have no intention to read it and edit it. So I decide to hibernate for a while, well I have no idea until when. Since also am expecting, that’s the good news, but the early stage isn’t something I fond of. My body cracking and I am dying if I walking. Plus it’s fasting month here and I try to fasting as best as I can. Just wish me do everything well.

I am gonna miss you readers. I will still probably around to read some of your post so until then live long and prosper.

.Cheers.

Charm Bracelet

I always amazed how reading a book can broaden my mind and my know-how of other countries culture. I never knew that Charm Bracelet actually means something. According to Mrs. Wikipedia a charm bracelet is an item of jewellery worn around the wrist that carries personal "charms" with decorative pendants or trinkets which signify important things in the wearer's life.

If you ever see a charm bracelet each pendant actually meant something to the wearer. This I never knew. I had a ready-to-wear charm bracelet that I bought it in online store but that pendants didn't represent me or my life. Apparently, it is common thing to mark important things in your life in a charm bracelet. You can made it by yourself or set an order in jewelry store.

ph: sarrahsison

This are charm bracelet Christian Grey gave Ana in her birthday mark: Paris, London black taxi (both from their honeymoon), sailing, soaring, Charlie Tango (all from C.Grey hobbies), Ben&Jerry's&Ana's, (there's supposed to be piano) (from their kinky sex), a love locket, a key to C. Grey heart, and a C (as becoming his first girlfriend).

ph: etsy

This are charm bracelet inspired from Fifty Shades of Grey mark each sweet moments in C. Grey and A. Grey relationship and their kinky sex.

ph: etsy

This is the best I can find charm bracelet inspired from Beautiful Disaster not the one Trav gave Abby as Val's gift.

Abby's charm bracelet mark: sweater (covered in blood in their first meet), a pair of dice, a green bead with shamrocks, motocycle (Trav's love), heart ('course), decks of cards (to remind of Vegas), turkey (Maddoz Thanksgiving), black bead (a dark memory when Abby leave Trav), flame and a ring (their wedding)

I found this tutorial (for men only) to give your partner a handmade and cheap (though we love diamonds we crazy more of thoughtful men). :)

The Least Expensive & Most Romantic Valentine’s Day Gift Ever: DIY Penny Charm Bracelet

If I could have a charm bracelet what will I put on it? Dunno. Age makes me less romantic :p but it's true. Maybe if you gave me when I was in college I probably will have ear to ear stupid grin but I'll try to do the same now. Okay stop blabbering non sense, I am not typically romantic.

My charm bracelet will mark: all the Divergent symbol, a script of LOVE, a butterfly, a skull, my initial name-F, Eiffel tower, a green leaf, Africa and a globe. All represents some stages of life I've been through and some dreams I never had a chance to make it come true.

So if you can have your own charm bracelet, what will you put in there?

.Cheers.

Triplet Festivity

Among all months in a year, November give me the most feels, the mark of the life and the death of the dearest.

. My brother's birthday. It's been 12 years now. We had family dinner and he managed to choose to eat steak. Yes he can choose what he likes and dislikes. Though I found my self at disadvantage to find him a birthday gift. I don't know which category does a 12-year-old boy is, a kid or a teenager? My brothers are the reason I need to become a good sister, a good role mode which somehow I failed to manage it. I never succeed. We all grew with no mother presence and so much drama in life and I have this worry that he needs to go through a life I've been through. The hardship of have no mother as your teacher of life. But I hope he'll manage to go through it as like his other sister and brother manage to go through it. We have this same blood. A blood of a survivor and a fighter. Happy Birthday, F!

. My mother's death. Yes, it's been 12 years by now, as you can see the hint. My mother was one of a mother who put her life in the line to deliver her child, my brother. She was always a tough mother and I grateful that Allah SWT take her away because life can harm her and I don't want that. Every time I've through the hardship where I wish she was there holding and accompanying me I just feel more grateful that she wasn't. For the best mother deserve the best place. In Allah's side. Nothing more beautiful than that. I always love you, mom!

. My 1st Wedding Anniversary. It's been a years + 9 years of relationship means 10 years togetherness. Me and husband never really celebrate our anniversary only at the beginning years of the relationship. And, to be honest, to count it to 1 (one) again and to say Happy Anniversary seemed odd. :) I grateful for every differences that even devastated me we can still together until forever. Thank you husband for letting me be a wife who has a rock star attitude that like to hang out on T-shirt and jeans and sneakers instead of dress, compromise when we will have a child and anything that occur in our little world, giving me freedom to spend couple hundred thousands rupiah in books instead of clothes or shoes or bags, not pushing me to cook instead you cook for me, and all my too-broad open mind and all my harsh thought and all my harsh way to show love. Happy Wedding Anniversary, F! Your the best, always!

This is the way I like to celebrate moments, a single cake and a single candle *blow off*

Thank you for being the biggest part of my life. Family always comes first.

.Cheers.

Tattoos

Happy Tuesday,

Just finished reading Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire and intoxicated by Travis Maddox madness and his fighting his tattoos and his bad boy ass.. Read the book and have to imagine of tattoos really killin' me. I always love body art which include tattoo and piercing but am dyin' for tattoo more. I don't mind what kind of tattoos, I've been into tribal and flowers but I more into words nowadays as long it's beautiful. Well tattoo itself is beautiful. Don't ask me, I don't have a single tattoo in my skin, I just don't allowed to so am just dyin' adoring tattoo through pictures and those who love to have tattoos in their skin. 

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If I cud have tats I'll have it in my wrist, my side, back of my ear, side of my finger and my neck. I'll choose some words and draw for my tats, it cud be a word of MOM, a nickname of my beloved, a life quotes, beautiful flowers, stars and words and words and words.... :)

If you cud have a tat, what it'll be and where?

.Cheers.

My Eat-Pray-Love

Greetings.

This year is my year. Been planning to spend my entire year for traveling and it turned out good. Remember Eat Pray Love, a journey in finding passion for food, God and love. That's exactly what I am coincidentally doing. So far I did my Pray and Love journey and leave my Eat journey.

Eat~Italy? I always love Italy even before Eat Pray Love movie. Italy is a magical place that inviting me to come ever since. My husband love pasta and I love pizza so definitely Italy is a good choice but I don't know when will I visit Italy.

My Pray journey. In the movie it's India, but mine is in Mecca, Saudi Arabia. I posted it before when I went home. My Pray journey more to convince my self through what I've learnt in Mecca and Medina. Satisfying my thirst of knowing about Islam and being a moslem. Alhamdulillah the journey give me a very enormous impact.

My Love journey. I found my love in my husband. Last week we visited Bali and I understand why so many people wants to go to Bali. Me too want to stay in Bali. I asked my husband to move to Bali *hoping* or any city with a lot of peacefulness which I am craving.

So how about you? Where have you been for traveling?


.Cheers.

Recharge

Recharge. 충전(baca: chungjeon)

RECHARGE (verb)
The verb RECHARGE has 2 senses:
1. load anew with ammunition,
2. charge anew

In life we sometimes take roller coaster ride and at the end of the day when you feel exhausted, you want to re-gain your energy. Just like battery (of a cellphone), you need to plug in with electricity in order to fill the (battery) bar full. It will work even with one bar.

Like the battery,we, human also need to recharge. Usually when you meet your loved one, you'll automatically fully recharge. Family (Mom, Dad, Brothers, Sisters), Best-friend, and our half soul are definitely our electricity. While the battery need electricity, human need what so-called affection.

HUG
A hug is a form of physical intimacy, that usually involves closing or holding the arms around the neck, back, or waist of another person; if more than two persons are involved, this is referred to as a group hug. A hug, sometimes in association with a kiss, eye contact or other gestures, is a form of nonverbal communication. Depending on culture, context and relationship, a hug can indicate familiarity, love, affection or friendship.^[1] One person may hug another as an indication of support, comfort, and consolation. A hug can be a demonstration of affection and emotional warmth, sometimes arising out of joy or happiness at meeting someone. Sometimes hugs are a romantic exchange.

To me, a HUG is one of affection I love the most. If I can I want to exchange something with my mom hugs. I'm not that in love with kiss or any other form to show love and affection. I love a tight hugs. Please give me a lots of hugsss :p

KISS
A kiss is the act of pressing one's lips against the lips or other body parts of another or of an object. Cultural connotations of kissing vary widely. Depending on the culture and context, a kiss can express sentiments of love, passion, affection, respect, greeting, friendship, and good luck, among many others. In some situations a kiss is a ritual, formal or symbolic gesture indicating devotion, respect or greeting, as in the case of a bride and groom kissing at the conclusion of a wedding ceremony or national leaders kissing each other in greeting, and in many other situations.

There's many way of kissing (kiss on the cheek, forehead, hair, lips, eyes) but you know kiss on the lips seems......... 

light bulb kiss

I only mention kiss and hug cuz I find it's a common thing to do. I like hugs the most as I feel every time I hug my loved one every pain that makes me weary will fade away. As for kiss, I just like to see a couple kissing, I admit I have kissing picture in my laptop but mostly are scene from a movie. I love to see how people immerse with their partner through a kiss.

*Credit on the picture*

I love how this picturized when couple exchange energy for each other. Chungjeon!!!

I love how the idea of "chungjeon" after I watched korean drama - The Greatest Love starring Cha Seung Won and Gong Hyo Jin. Check here for detail chungjeon.



Cheers,

Vie

Time Will Heal

Love doesn't stay with someone who intentionally hurt.
It'll fade in time.
Love doesn't stay with someone who intentionally do nothing.
It'll broke in time.
Love doesn't stay without your permission.
It'll take some time.

Time will heal. Time is our best-friends (when we're broken)

Don't worry. You're human—your memory is no more than a sieve. Time heals all wounds for your kind. -New Moon-

I hate to see people broken-heart. But this is life. We born we die. So does love. 

Am not broken yet wounded but time will heal.

Bisous,

Vie

Mood.

Hai.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011

Late. Yeah I know. But recently I'm focused on managing my life. everything in my life. Love, work, family, etc but myself come first. So I need my break time from internet and writing and my usual thing. I promise I'll be back soon.

O yea I failed to get my visa due to lack of documents and willing. hahhahha . but I learnt a lot, that the most important things. I'll see you around.


Bisous,




Aquarian girl

Nekat (pt. 2)

Good Monday everyone,

Yes, I know It's been a long time almost a month and New Year is ahead. Where have I been? Nowhere..k k k

Finally, I finished all the documents application for visa long sejour to France and now I have to wait for the embassy call. But am not sure that they'll approve my visa. So it takes almost 2 weeks to finish all of the documents because in the middle of the process I was so unsure about this decision (to go abroad). Travel insurance and even to fill in visa documents it took me 2 hours and arrrrgggghhhhh everything is done.

I have me and my time a lot. Avoiding crowded. I really want to share what I've been through recently but I guess I'll keep it for my self now. And let people missunderstood with me. I mean people don't always have to know the truth. Let me.

Have a good life. and LOVE.


Bisous,


Sofia

A Bitch For My Spouse

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"be a bitch only to your spouse,cuz when they're cheating, they're cheating only to a bitch"
 
That was my facebook status yesterday. A bit controversial. A bit harsh. Tapi itu gw. Kata-kata gw tajam sangat, dalam mengomentari sesuatu atau memberi masukan buat temen-temen terdekat tapi itulah gw. Am trying so real inside out. Gw ga mau nge-fake-in diri gw dengan menjadi manis atau anak yang lugu. Sorry that just wasn't me. Tapi gw juga orang yang sangat berpikir terlalu serius untuk mempublish atau mempost atau mengatakan sesuatu yang memungkinkan orang lain baca. Kenapa? Karena gw ga mau (sebisa mungkin) jatoh karena kata-kata gw sendiri yang ga bisa gw jalanin. Gw punya prinsip "orang besar adalah orang yang menjalankan kata-kata besar yang terlontar dari dirinya". Yupe gw pengen jadi orang besar. Yang kata-kata gw bisa di dengar banyak orang. bisa menggugah hati banyak orang. supaya bisa bermanfaat bagi sesama. That's it.

Balik lagi kenapa gw nulis status seperti itu. Percaya kalo gw ditunjukkan kehidupan orang lain sebagai model dalam kehidupan-terutama mengenai kehidupan berpasang-pasangan. Selingkuh, mendua, have fun. Apapun namanya itu ga ada yang halal. Tapi itu jadi contoh. Makanya hal-hal kayak gitu eksis.

Perselingkuhan ga selalu terjadi di laki-laki tapi juga di perempuan. Jadi ga ada diskriminasi gender disini. Kalo laki-laki selingkuh alasannya macem-macem begitu juga perempuan. Tapi klo ditarik benang merahnya simpel: kurang pengertian kurang pemahaman akan dirinya sendiri apalagi orang lain. Dan yang paling enak adalah cari kambing hitam "MENYALAHKAN ORANG LAIN" untuk kesalahan yang kita sendiri lakukan. Jadi klo lo perempuan yang kurang menarik jadilah bitch buat pasangan dan buat dia hanya mematahkan lehernya buat lo. Klo lo laki-laki cuma mikirin kelamin lo yang doyan naik turun carilah pelacur dijalanan yang bisa dibayar seadanya dan ga usah pulang ke rumah. Dan klo lo perempuan yang menye-menye manja memaksa meminta waktu banyak dari pasangan lo berusaha jadilah lebih mandiri, lo dikasih kaki tangan kepala otak buat berpikir dan hati buat memahami keperluan masing-masing orang. Klo lo laki-laki yang serius banget klo kerja atau ngutak ngatik kode program atau maen ps/game atau apapun itu sempetin lah menyediakan waktu yang berkualitas atau obrolan yang berkualitas tentang lo dan pasangan lo dan hubungan lo seperti lo menyediakan waktu buat kerja atau buat ngutak-ngatik kode program atau maen ps/game karena nanti yang nemenin lo pas udah kake-kake dan giginya tanggal semua bukan hal-hal kayak itu tapi pasangan hidup lo.

Usahakan lah yang terhebat buat pasangan dan bersyukur lah untuk usaha pasangan, mudah-mudahan kita ga akan pernah merasa kekurangan.

p.s lakukanlah hal kecil seperti memasak dan membuatkan minuman untuk pasangan. klo bisa minimalisasi dimasakin pembantu. karena pasangan kita ga menikah dengan pembantu.

Happy Thursday everyone!

Cheers,

Almost End

It's End of The Month. Yippie

Finally, with unbearable feeling akhirnya mendorong gw juga untuk keluar dan hang-out dengan teman-teman SMA gw. Senang rasanya bisa mengenali pribadi seseorang lebih dalam ketika kita berinteraksi lebih dekat. Gw menyadari beberapa perubahan dalam setiap diri teman-teman gw. Senang rasanya begitu kita tahu kita ga sendiri dalam proses pendewasaan ini. Tadi malem, para cewe-cewe ini melarikan diri dari pasangan masing-masing dan rutinitas sehari-hari. Pembicaraan yang ringan tetap bisa membuat gw mengenali perubahan dalam diri teman-teman gw.

Bulan Juli ini banyak banget ngasih gw pelajaran dan renungan-renungan yang dalam buat jiwa gw. Mengenali sosok laki-laki yang baik dan ga pernah cukup, hubungan dengan pasangan yang setiap hari berubah karena setiap hari kita berubah, hubungan sosial dengan teman-teman yang selama ini menjadi terbatasi dengan kebutuhan masing-masing, hubungan keluarga yang membangun emosi secara lebih baik namun tidak terarah, pemikiran tentang menikah-punya anak-menjadi istri-menjadi ibu-memiliki suami-memiliki ayah anak-anak gw yang masih belum sampai ditahap berkeyakinan tinggi karena banyak dipengaruhi apa yang sudah terjadi-apa yang saya lihat-apa yang saya rasakan sampai hubungan pribadi dengan diri sendiri dalam menyelami kesabaran dan kemarahan yang ga bisa dijelaskan.

Semua hal itu terlalu banyak. Tapi Allah paling mengetahui segala kebaikan di hidup gw dan gw mensyukuri itu. Masih dengan cita-cita menjadi orang yang besar dan menjadi inspirasi hidup orang lain. Semoga semua jalannya dimudahkan, dilancarkan, dan diarahkan Allah SWT.

The last but not least, untuk mama yang selalu saya rindukan. Walau terkadang saya lupa berdoa dalam solat untuk mama, I Love You, saya masih berjuang mempelajari apa yang selama ini belum saya pelajari. Kita pasti bertemu lagi nanti.dan saya pastikan saya harus memelukmu dan merasakan masakanmu lagi. Miss You

Grateful

I should be grateful..

GOD gives me such a wonderful life with its pain and victory, incredible family (mom,dad,brothers), other family, sweet friends, substitutes parents, foster brother and sister, nice working place and so forth.

I should be grateful, shouldn't I?

I must, mustn't I?

Being able to deep-breath in such polluted air in infinite fresh air and to walk on foot across the road full magnificent car and its driver every day, I should be grateful.

Living in this world and become an inspiration to my closest people is such a bless. Being able to complement one and another with my ability to speak harshly and even smoothly is such a wonderful things to do.

Even though in some time I prefer to be solid and solitude, there still part I prefer to be chewy and heavy. I am a human no longer a beast without aim. I am unfathomable human being with uncertain future. The only certain thing is an uncertain future. I am so excited how God will take me in the future. I am more excited how where and when I take the future.

So stop bitching yourself if you find you're stuck in a moment where you want to slap your colleague, or screaming in your senior's faces, or begging to your boss to raise your salary or what ever.

Stop grumbling yourself whether you want everyone nice to you or not, or you wish to have double-digit salary in a wink, or expecting more while you struggle less.

Stop proscribing yourself from being a happy individual, or a magnificent personal, or a high-powered person. 

Where ever you are if you're unchanged your bitching habit it'll remain the same.

Please find things to be altered in yourself into something remarkable and then please accept something that you already choose like it should.

Selingkuh

Selalu sebel setiap ada pasangan yang hobinya selingkuh. Dan rasanya pengen nampar 2 orang tidak tau diri itu. It's tempting.

Sebenernya mungkin godaan ini lebih banyak di laki-laki sedangkan godaan perempuan ada di mata-bagaimana dia melihat laki-laki-tapi bukan itu yang mau gw bahas.

Sebenernya kita mengetahui benar ga sih pasangan kita tanpa ada yang ditutup-tutupin, banyaknya waktu yang dihabiskan ga menjamin juga sih tapi lebih kepada kualitas dan bagaimana kita mau terbuka dan menerima kekurangan pasangan sebagai kelebihan.

Let's see why they cheat

1. Fisik

Banyak alasan terutama karena fisik seseorang lebih baik atau paling ga setara karena biasanya klo selingkuh orang nyari yang lebih baik dari segi fisik. Tapi gw masih bingung klo di era begini -yah walau gw tau penampilan fisik itu penting- tapi cape ga sih klo berusaha terlalu keras untuk lebih baik secara fisik. Ke salon supaya rambutnya indah, luluran supaya kulitnya lebih cerah, pake behel supaya barisan giginya lebih rapi. Sampai pakai baju dengan model ini itu dan warna ini itu yang sesuai dengan selera pasangan kita dan belum tentu sreg dengan kita. Kan kalo kita pakai yang sesuai dengan keinginan kita walau itu ga bagus atau murah atau mahal tapi kalo kita yang pake nyaman aura cantiknya pasti keluar. Tapi aneh ga sih klo cuma masalah fisik yang seperti itu aja bisa bikin seseorang selingkuh. Pada akhirnya laki-laki butuh perempuan yang bisa melayani dia dan anak-anaknya di masa depan bukan perempuan yang lebih memilih menghabiskan waktu di salon dari pada mengantar anaknya sekolah. Kalian laki-laki sudah sempurna kah tanpa cacat sampe bisa memanfaatkan kefisikan perempuan??

2. Rasa Baru

Gw ga pernah mengerti dengan rasa baru yang mereka mau. Rasanya enak. Begitu katanya kalo mereka bisa berhubungan dengan lebih dari satu perempuan dalam jangka waktu berdekatan atau bersamaan. Rasanya bisa mencium dua bahkan lebih bibir yang berbeda. Menyentuh dua bahkan lebih bentuk boops yang berbeda. Memeluk dua bahkan lebih kesintalan tubuh perempuan atau apapun itu. Mau merasakan rasa yang cuma ada di awal-awal hubungan/pacaran. Tapi itu ego. Itu nafsu. Itu ke-tidakstabil-an jiwa.

3. Ego

Inilah ego-ism laki-laki yang mereka pertahankan. Mereka hanya memperbolehkan diri mereka-lah yang berbuat nakal, berbuat kesalahan tapi mereka tidak akan men-toleransi jika dilakukan pasangan mereka. Bagi mereka kami ini milik khalayak wanita tapi kamu milik saya jadi. Mereka senang di ngemis-ngemisi cinta sama perempuan dan perempuan lebih banyak mengemis-ngemis cinta dari pada laki-laki. Satu lagi karena mereka berfikir perempuan akan selalu memaafkan dan selalu ada buat mereka jadi mereka semena-menanya terhadap perempuan.

Buat gw selingkuh adalah pembelajaran buat diri gw supaya ga seperti mereka dan pembelajaran untuk ikhlas. Dan mereka yang masih suka selingkuh we called them BOYS not MEN cause MEN aren't CHEAT!

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Untuk perempuan yang dengan begonya atau berlagak bego tau kalo cowo yang dideketinnya udah punya pasangan. You just LOW yourself. Kalian berfikir bisa mengubah tabiat laki-laki yang suka selingkuh. Kalian berpikir laki-laki itu cuma sayang kalian. Yang mereka lakukan ke kalian juga mereka lakukan ke perempuan-perempuan lain. Mereka pasti akan meninggalkan kalian dengan cara yang sama dia lakukan ke pasangan sebelum kalian. Kalo udah terjadi jangan bilang "Kamu nusuk aku dari belakang. Koq kamu tega. Kenapa kamu begini begitu". They won't change. Girls, sesama perempuan harus ga sih kita saling menyakiti?