Love Without Aim

Kali ini saya mau nulis dalam Bahasa Indonesia walaupun judulnya dalam Bahasa Inggris. *_*

Cinta tanpa tujuan.

Ini adalah segelintir kegundahan kaum perempuan atas suatu hubungan yang mungkin saya alami, saya dengar dan saya lihat. Hai kaum Adam dan Hawa, semoga ini bisa jadi pencerahan buat kita semua.

Seringkali saya dengar keluhan-keluhan kaum perempuan tentang pasangan mereka, ya PACAR mereka. Perlu diketahui diumur yang tak lagi muda dengan rata-rata umur 23-25 tahun. Apa sih yang seringkali terdengar dari mereka? Ya. "Kapan ya pacar saya ngelamar saya", "Duh, pengen nikah", "Umur makin tambah tapi belom menikah juga", atau ini yang lebih sering terdengar "Pacar saya serius ga si, koq ga ada omongan-omongan tentang menikah"

Ya, wahai kaum Adam kami kaum Hawa sangat gelisah dengan umur dan kondisi hubungan yang ujungnya ga jelas. Walau dalam kehidupannya kaum perempuan tetap menjalani dengan pasangannya, tapi ga sedikit yang takut atau gelisah sama ujung hubungannya. We're not gonna waste time if you'rent serious with us. Seriously man, please pay attention more to this. Bukan pernikahannya yang cepat yang perempuan-perempuan itu ingin. Tapi lebih pada kenyataan dan pernyataan kalau sang laki-laki serius, supaya ada ikatan lebih dari pada pacaran ala anak remaja, dan supaya ada tujuan dalam menjalani hubungan (Menikah juga lebih baik terutama untuk pasangan yang sudah pacaran terlalu lama).Tapi kayaknya ga semua kaum Adam cukup AWARE dengan hal-hal seperti ini, mereka pikir membiarkan perempuan menunggu dan bertanya-tanya hal yang ga pasti adalah baik. Terlalu lama menunggu akan menimbulkan kebosanan, kebosanan akan menimbulkan perselingkuhan (mungkin). Kalau kaum Adam bisa begitu serius dalam bekerja, bisakah kalian juga lebih serius dalam membicarakan masa depan yang akan kalian rajut sama pasangan kalian?

Kami kaum Hawa bukan pengeluh yang tidak bisa mengerti pacar yang selalu sibuk, atau lebih mementingkan teman-teman cowonya atau game-ya game! Kami juga bukan orang yang akan terlalu menuntut dinikahi esok atau lusa. Kami rasa kami akan senang kalau kalian bisa berbicara tentang masa depan (nikah) dengan lebih serius supaya hubungan ini ada tujuan. Kami kaum Hawa juga akan mengerti "Kalau jodoh di tangan Tuhan" at least berusahalah.

Bukannya mereka, perempuan, tidak mau bicara seringkali mereka takut, segan dan malu atau terkesan memaksakan. Saya masih sedikit konservatif jadi ada baiknya laki-laki yang memulai pembicaran mengenai tujuan awal dan arah hubungan yang dijalani.

Psst, hadirlah secara emotional dan secara fisik dan berkomunikasi yang baik lah tentang apa yang terjadi di dalam hubungan dan di dalam personal pasangannya. Atau kalian lebih memilih pasangan kalian untuk cerita ke orang lain padahal kalian orang terdekat pasangan kalian?

Bisous,

Sofia

A Treasury For A Life

Friend I treasure deeply.

Nowadays people are like crazy with social networking. It's always pop up in my head, can we really happen to live without social network. It start with meeting a long time friend, a long length friend, an old friend then begin to the more you have friend the more you famous. Level. So u start to add or approve someone not really your friends. Then you realize you have lots of friends. But only those who keep updating status or news that catch you the most. (Think how many time you spend to look for friends if u have a thousand of friend).

I don't really give a shit with social networking. But I do have. But not like am a crazy one. I end up make my social network very personal and only close friends and colleague. It just am not that type of person who spend a lot of time making a lot of friendship. I do have friends but I guess I end up being very picky for this one. Because am not that kind who like basa basi, pretty much am straight to the point person. So do my friends. I'm suffer in silent type girl. So do my friends, I guess (lol). My friendship is very personal and require a lot of telepathy hahhahhha or emotionally connected. I mean I know it's a good thing to have a lot of friends but mine is a hundred feel like a million.

Social networking is just one of hundreds way to communicate with people especially the closest one. But I think calling (and off course a meeting will be better) still the best way to embrace our separate longing. It's never enough with leaving our thoughts, companion, and love through emotionless written messages. Spend some of your time to take care of your deeply treasure friends.

"You are my best friend as well as my lover, and I do not know which side of you I enjoy the most. I treasure each side, just as I have treasured our life together." — Nicholas Sparks

Cheers,

Sofia

Job-seeker

This week gonna be the last week in January but not yet the last Monday.

O yeah I want to talk about "How getting a job".

How often do you hear, "Can you get me a job?" "Do you have any vacancy in your place?" and another sort o question. So I was face by similar things "Can you find a job for this boy?" Hmm... What am I look like? A job vacancy agent? I am one of those lucky people in Indonesia that have a job. Getting a job never that hard but hardly easy. Basically I ended up entering infamous major (according most of people thought and mine too ^^V) but i never regret it. My biggest passion is always a language so I guess no matter where I go, language is always in me. Yeah even I didn't get my favorite major but still I practice my English often so that's become my biggest value. Since am not that smart in my college. 

When entering work life I don't come to be a job picker. I mean I don't isolate myself from a thought of "I want this amount of salary" or "I want a job here" or "I want a job with bla bla bla". Nope. But I found some people I know they attempt to be very picky with their job. No one will have such a big income unless you are a specialist in your sector. Mostly people don't work in the same area with what they learn in college. We learned from the start again when we entering work life unless you already work since you are in college. 

- Sort what kind of job that match your ability then apply without even paying too much attention with GPA, experience less than 2/3 year still also compatible for fresh graduate.

- Once you got a call for interview, just try to attend the interview even though your not really interested with the job at least you can learn how to interview and more often you attend an interview it will enhance your interview ability and the way you convinced the interviewer.

- As I know nowadays a company will recruit for 3 months as a start or a probation period. Just try. Then try to apply another job and find the most suitable position and company to your requirement. But changing work too often is not too good too. 

"Some time we not always very lucky to have a lot of options in our life but there are more people that even have less or even no options than what we have."

This is why we called it Life. Bare!

Cheers,

Sofia

Cactus

I have a CACTUS. I love living things. Thank you love.

Bisous,

Sofia

What Goes Around Comes Around

Past. Present. Future.


Come.

Cook a Cook.

+ + + +

I want my own kitchen.

I don't know why. But I desperately want my own kitchen. I want to cook my own food. Healthy food Off course. I want it more that I want a guess bag or other branded stuff.

I think kitchen is like a girl territory with full authority.


Bisous,


Aquarian girl

Day.

Life is funny. I should be grateful for whatever it is.

"I learned through people's life, people's mistake but the best I learned from my own mistake."

Every person process of life is different. I am grateful for what I've been through including joy and pain. I almost 25 and heading to self-actualization. I've been very grateful that I've spent my teenage phase rudely (if I can say it like that). I used to be someone who doesn't like studying and spending most of my time in early 15 to my last 22 just after I graduate am entering my new phase. 7 years of my-having-fun-age is passed by. Mostly I spent it for lock in one-man relationship, billiard, translating, guiding foreigner, English... I used to be someone with rockstar attitude showing rebellion and default craziness. :D. But that's me, really I don't need you to judge how I deal with my past life. Since last year am not really interesting in what you could call major having fun such as clubbing, music concerts, shopping or what ever you called things-to-make-myself-fun.


Suddenly I get this thinking on my way to my room after work. This is why I like walking.


I found out some of people I recognize are "late" to have fun. I don't judge it's right or wrong. Hell like I care.

I found a man really into to clubbing. Almost clubbing everyday. I thought of him 'a village boy come to a sin city'. Fascinating. Yes, Jakarta is fascinating. Though it's a city filled lonely people. Another man is really crazy in clubbing in a good club. Having a deep puff. Becoming a real active smoker. I found my friend real frustrated in his/her partner. Trying to bitching with another partner. I found those unique person being crazy in one or another thing. Maybe there's a time when you can't utter what really happen in you, but surround you really notice it.

"I go to club but ain't party goer

I smoke but ain't a smoker

I drink but ain't drunk

I am thinking that makes me a thinker" -anonymous-

Really, It's their process of life though I remember we own ourself no matter how hard it is.

Life is short. And our passage of life is fast. So keep up. Once am having a new passage of life am not gonna wasting my time by unnecessity have fun. This time am doing it with full responsibility.

Yes am just only almost 25 but I sound old. I am. No matter how many people say am young, but it's myself sound old. Sometime in our life we'll meet different phase with other. The loved one will stay no matter bit is our process for them.

Thank you for all the love, hugs and kiss. My life never a chaos.


Bisous,


Aquarian girl

Mood.

Hai.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011

Late. Yeah I know. But recently I'm focused on managing my life. everything in my life. Love, work, family, etc but myself come first. So I need my break time from internet and writing and my usual thing. I promise I'll be back soon.

O yea I failed to get my visa due to lack of documents and willing. hahhahha . but I learnt a lot, that the most important things. I'll see you around.


Bisous,




Aquarian girl