Saturday,
September 8th, 2012
Pusat Studi Kebudayaan Jepang
Universitas Indonesia.
I went to The 3rd NLP Conference. At first, I was accompanying my husband who need to work as an MC in that event. I always love to learn a new things and this is the first time I know NLP so I make my sure brought something to learn at the end of the day. At first my mind went blank as I am a newbie to NLP.
A brief about NLP.
Neuro-linguistic programming (
NLP) is an approach to
communication,
personal development, and
psychotherapy
created in the 1970s. The title refers to a stated connection between
the neurological processes ("neuro"), language ("linguistic"), and
behavioral patterns that have been learned through experience
("programming") and can be organized to achieve specific goals in life. The founders of NLP,
Richard Bandler and
John Grinder, say that NLP is capable of addressing problems such as
phobias,
depression,
habit disorder,
psychosomatic illnesses, and
learning disorders.
[citation needed] Their stated aim was in "finding ways to help people have better, fuller and richer lives."
[8][9]
Bandler and Grinder claimed that if the effective patterns of behaviour
of exceptional people could be modeled then these patterns could be
acquired by others. NLP has been adopted by private therapists,
including
hypnotherapists, and in management workshops and seminars marketed to business and government. (
wikipedia)
A simple conclusion (to me) NLP is how to control mind , to process language and pattern in how we think and do. To achieve something in your life such as SUCCESS! (Correct me if I am wrong) *Seriously I don't get it with the idea of success*
There's a lot of trainer and practitioners at NLP Conference. The event start from 08 AM to 08 PM and divided into three session:
Session 1 (10:00 - 12:00)
- dr. Andhyka Sedyawan, "Life Changing through Amazing Modeling"
- Fadli Nur Haq, "Ngemat: Access to Unlimited Resources"
- Teddi Prasetya,"Leadership Modelling : Cracking Stephen Covey's Work on Leadership with NLP"
- Abdul Aziez, "Mengupas Model Retorika Dakwah Walisongo"
Session 2 (13:00 - 15:00)
- dr. Kasim Rasjidi, “Impacful Healing for You and Others”
- Hendry Risjawan, “Quantum Modeling: Cara Cepat Mencapai Keinginan”
- Muhammad Iqbal Basri, “Application of NLP in Medical Practice”
- Wahyudi Akbar, “Menuju Manusia Merdeka”
Session 3 (15:30 - 17:30)
- Yan Nurindra, “Memodel Berbagai Teknik Energi Esoteris”
- Antonius Arif, “Modeling Success System Never Failed - W. Clement Stone”
- Ronny F. Ronodirjo, "Modelling Instant Presentation: Cara Paten untuk Siap Presentasi Memukau Sekalipun Nyaris Tanpa Persiapan Cukup"
- Asep Haerul Gani, “Transforming Self: Sufi Model”
- Peter Wrycza, “Cultural Modeling and Deep Transformation”
In each session you can choose one trainer or practitioner you want to learn from or the topic that interest you most. In session 1, I went to dr. Andhyka Sedyawan class about Life Changing through Amazing Modeling. At this point I still have a blurry understanding about NLP. There's a lot of method in NLP and dr. Andhyka explain about Modelling method. Though the sample he explain is how to model human (better if s/he still alive) and set a goal and to make a better you. In simple, we do it everyday unconsciously or maybe for some people (like me) consciously. dr. Andhyka told us we set someone to be model, it can be 1 person, 2, 3, 4 and so on. Basically, we learn some good things from other and copying it into ourselves later we combine with our own taste. Our style.
To me, I don't particularly model someone, me I more like learning everythings that good and bad from someone and make it a sample of life. Sound similar?
Here are some good points that I dr. Andhyka presented that day: Modelling.
- Make your goal : Make sure you list your goal
- Pick your best model : Better if your model still alive so you have a chance to meet s/he and learn directly
- Using their shoes : (Don't really get this) I think you should try to do what they do
- Produce similar result : By the time you model someone, you copy someone in expectation to meet their result
- Clean up the pattern : Takes what good and match for you and leave what doesn't
- Make your own formula : Once you have the ability to make your own taste
- Pass it on : Share to people
IMO, indeed agree with what dr. Andhyka shared to us but for me I am not gonna use it to model someone but definitely what he shared are something I did to my writing style. He said it is okay to copy or plagiarism someone in order to learn something new. By the time you learn from one person to the other you will find out that what good or bad for you and you will start to develop something that has your own taste.
I don't have writing background and struggling so hard to make a good articles or stories. I was learning it slowly for writer that I like and develop my writing style so I understand exactly what dr. Andhyka trying to shared about modelling. dr. Andhyka also talked about unconsciously incompetent or competent means somehow we able to do something or not to do something unconsciously. Like if we practiced to become an MC and speak in front of people again and again later when we were suddenly asked to MC an event we capable to do it even without preparation, that's mean you are unconsciously competent (to become an MC). But this things cannot be applied to me, as I know what I am capable and incapable of something. If it's for me it's become what I consciously incompetent and competent. I think the more we understand ourselves the more you know what you in/capable of :)
This first session I get the meaning for modelling method but still struggling to know the essence of NLP. In session 2, I went to
Hendry Risjawan class about
Quantum Modeling: Cara Cepat Mencapai Keinginan, I suppose to go to
dr. Kasim Rasjidi class to know about the
Impacful Healing for You and Others but I tend to get the class late. I didn't get the idea in the session 2 as I attend Hendry Risjawan class late too :D. I only get the idea if we can transfer energy like love energy to someone we want to share with. Actually the energy itself can consist positive and negative energy. Instead transferring bad energy it's better to transfer good energy like
LOVE (through physical contact like
HUG). Do you read my post about how to
RECHARGE through hug?
In session 3, I went to Peter Wrycza class about Cultural Modeling and Deep Transformation. Why I get interest? Because it is said Cultural Modelling I thought it maybe about culture. Ahhaha I am culture freak! Mr. Peter has been learning about NLP since 30 years a go (correct me if I am wrong, I am not really good at memorizing) and he's the 3rd generation of NLP. Maybe he wanted to explain a deeper lesson for the audience apparently some of the audience is new to NLP (like me) so he did try to explain in a very basic and simple to make a good understanding for us, which is it works.
Learning Process means: Distinction, Pattern and Modelling. Distinction, (I can't put it into good words) so I'll borrow Mr. Peter conclusion, distinction is an action, you can say it something that stands alone (I think, correct me if I am wrong). A generalization between distinction create pattern. Pattern is interaction (could be interaction between one action to another action). A generalization between pattern create model. Model is choreography.
Modelling divided into 2:
- Analytic : for example, for a person to do something s/he needs to think, think, think first. Analyst.
- Intuitive : a feel from the inside. Example: a kid learn how to be an Indonesian kid without being told bla bla bla. Copying.
Cultural Modelling : Systemic Presence.
Presence is consciously being present at this time, being present as a whole (body, mind, soul). Presence helps to connect with other to become one. In this class we were given a demonstration of being presence. I was paired up with someone I just knew that day, we analyze each other by being presence. I have to admit it's very hard to do. In practice I try to be present as a whole but I guess my body just won't listen, I keep playing with my feet and pen in order to obscure the awkwardness between us. Then we were told to exchange seat and try to see me in my partner eyes, I could do it only for short moment, clearly I can picturized my self in my partner eyes. When learn to associated my SELF with OTHER and become a group called "WE". Basically "we" consist 2 (two) self. Later we were paired up with another "we" (2 different people) and become a bigger "WE". If continue to create a "WE" that's how system were made. That's we create a circle of people we called family, community, and then citizen and then universe.
We were told to think "What is Indonesia that differ from other country?" I was excited at first because it was a small class and small group. You know I don't like big group with bunch of people. Our "WE" was consist of 5 people (including me), as we discussed what is Indonesia we found ourselves in an argument, a paradoks where pros and cons are exsist. It's very hard to have 5 new and different people and called ourselves "WE" because (IMO) "WE" is one, together same voice no matter how many argument you will have inside. I was the one with the least voice as I feel uncomfortable to talk in a big group. Later we were asked to stand up behind our seat and to look and to think what we see inside "WE". I saw myself and the others clearly there. This proses is to dissociate from what we called "WE" to see from others perspective. Works! At the end of the class we formed a bigger "WE" with all of the audience and have a reflection about our country. I have to admit this is the most touched class I've been attend. Thank you, Peter.
As why I remain silent in my "WE" discussion it's because I have different perception with others. My attitude and the way I think may look I have no nationalism but that's just incorrect, I learn I love Indonesia more than anything. Deep down myself I love this country with all the goodness and badness. No matter how damage or repair this country I am still gonna love this. No matter there's a lot of corruption, killing, riot or anything bad I feel Indonesia is the most secure and safe country. Indonesia is my home. and for the first time I don't know why I cry when sing Indonesia Raya at the beginning of the event. See don't ask my nationalism!
I hope this will help you to found out what is NLP. I am interested with Peter subject about Deep Transformation, limited time make me can't learn more at Peter class. I'll learn again later.
If you want to understand more about NLP you can visit this website:
.Cheers.
